You know when you are troubled by something and don't know which way to turn, words or quotes seem to appear out of the blue. They can literally stop you in your tracks, and you can suddenly see a way forward. You feel invisibly supported.

Challenges and troubles are part of life, and all of us will face difficulties at some point. Relationship problems, money worries, health issues - we have all been there. So what is the best way to deal with life's often insurmountable situations?

One of the first things to think about is how you react to problems or face situations. Do you think the worst, fly off the handle, shout and scream, or play the victim? It is so easy to react emotionally to situations, especially when we feel wronged or hurt. I am sure we can all relate. But, maybe there is another way?

Can we pause, take a step back, and stand in our power and emotional strength? We can also take as much time away from the situation as we need, to reflect, and if need be, cool down! We might then ask ourself the question, "Which part of this can I take responsibility for"? Here, we step back into our power, and back towards feeling in control, emotionally.

There is great strength in emotional control and resilience. However, we have to know ourselves and our values deeply. Only then can we pause, breathe, and then respond, rather than reacting sharply.

As Transformational Leader Michael Gamble says,

"You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is sitting back and observing things with logic. True power is restraint. If words control you, that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass".....

He continues to remind us... "Let's uplift and encourage one another as we learn to embrace life's experiences with open hearts and steady minds."

Our emotional wellbeing must be nurtured and cradled like a baby. Emotional health is absolutely critical to our overall health and wellbeing, especially as women. We are, after all, very emotional beings.

Coming back to the point I made earlier about seeing words or reading something that really helps in the moment. This popped into my inbox the other day as I was struggling with what seemed an insurmountable problem at the time. I read it, and then simply smiled. I hope it makes you smile too, and if you are struggling with anything at the moment, I hope it helps.

The top 10 ways to shine your light:

1. Get quiet.

2. Start anywhere.

3. Lean into it.

4. Open your heart.

5. Keep busy.

6. Schedule play.

7. Ask for help.

8. Don’t look back.

9. Give more hugs.

10. Feel gratitude.

I would like to add another here - writing! Writing helps you to reflect, delve into those feelings and highlight the parts of yourself that need work, or need extra attention. After all, neither of us are perfect ;